The older I get, the more I am able to see that ability doesn't always translate into results and ability also doesn't translate into joy. I still think it is important to learn new things because there is a wee bit of confidence that one gains through acquisition of a skill. Yes, I can do that.
Latest skill : Chicken Scratch Embroidery from Embroidery Companion (This had no purpose whatsoever and is consequently kind of bugging me, but I had to do it. I just had to.)
My poor husband took my ability in the kitchen to mean that he would eat well after we married. It does occasionally happen. What neither of us realized was how passionately I disliked grocery shopping, the necessary precursor, and how my time management skills would mean that the bread was done hours before our main course. So I don't like to cook but I can and I will and I do because I like serving processed food even less than cooking (excluding Ding Dongs, which are awesome).
I do like to bake, but it occurred to me last year that I do not like to bake with my children. I feel very guilty about this because it's such the sahm thing to do. But they drive me a little nutty with flinging flour everywhere and dropping whole bowls of eggs. It was rather freeing to admit this. Now I give myself a little pep talk, prepare the kitchen for mayhem and am overall in a better mood about all of it.
I sew. I tolerate sewing quilts, but bags and garments stress me out. Badly.
I learned to spin last year and I'm glad I did but it also stresses me out. I get impatient with the speed of spinning on a spindle and begin to abandon all my household responsibilities until the whole braid is done. So it's not a great fit for my personality right now. It is awfully pretty, so I will continue but I have no desire to spin all my own yarn.
Latest spin: Pigeonroof Studios Merino in Persimmon. Rav destash. Love.
Knitting and gardening are wholly relaxing and enjoyable to me. It's nice that all of these pursuits have their own place in my life but I'm happy I don't feel the pressure to enjoy every second or sew just because I can. This is just fun stuff, you know? I relieved a lot of guilt with this slight shift in how I think.
I am baking oatmeal raisin cookies today, perhaps my favorite, because we're all happily trapped inside 'round the fireplace. I intend to start some knitting some very plain socks.